怨苦 ，造成你的苦難 。人會受苦，是因為自己一直在"怨苦"，因而 「願苦心成」。（讓自己一直受苦的心願終於成真）
“There are some who mistakenly believe that suffering is a punishment from God. In regard to universal law, and as a consequence of cause and effect, there is truth to the idea that one reaps what has been sown, although it is not through God’s vengeance. Tragically, many people suffer because they have more faith in the prospect of pain than in the reality of blessing. Those who have experienced a life of suffering feel that hardship is at least one thing on which to rely—that any prediction is better than none. Their parents suffered, and their grandparents suffered before that, which bestows a kind of love upon that painful tradition. Some people have actually come to love their suffering, for it is the strongest bond to be shared with those who are dear to them. For some, surviving misfortune has become a person’s basis for accomplishment and self-esteem. The point is, when there is an attachment between love and suffering, the bond is self- perpetuating.
你是你所愛的 （As you love, so you are! ）
To the contrary, some people suffer reciprocally, because they have contributed to an environment in which the threat of suffering is part of control and dominance. They have created the kind of environment that expects and utilizes suffering for leverage. Eventually, they will fall prey to their own designs and intentions, and receive their own full measure of suffering.
“Most suffering occurs because humankind does not know that it has a right to the blessings of life.
You do not have to settle for hurting, disappointment, pain, confusion, or depression. Moreover, when you seek blessings, the rest of your sacred contract will unfold. As I told you, the Creator has written your covenant in joy. Those who are obsessed with suffering do not easily find their true purpose. It is when you seek blessings that you find your reason for living. Seek blessings and expect them; be grateful and know they are yours for the asking.
“You have the right to make your own decisions in life.
A decision involves not only what you choose to have, but also what you intentionally decline. No one else can do that for you.”
— Love Without End