在亞拉姆語裡「哀悼( Mourning )」可以解釋為:悲傷、悲痛、痛苦、或痛惜。這些意義大多具有負面的含義,而且暗示了對「失去」的執著。然而,當專注於哀痛的價值時,還有一個更重要的含義可以被表達出來。

        「淨化與釋放」的行為,和「悲傷與失去」的內在化相當不同。當一個人最初認清並經歷悲傷時,就如同苦難降臨了。起初是震驚,接著是沮喪,因此他轉向內在來承受情緒和精神上的創傷,這就是悲痛。

        當過程達到最後的誠服階段時,「哀悼」產生了。當他體會到接受與釋放,「哀悼」是那自然流露的淚水。在那種情況下,即使他已失去某些執著的人事物,「心」仍可以感受到生命的持續。一旦釋放了那些無法保留的人事物,他就痊癒了。透過釋放,這個人被賜福了。悲痛是執著於那已經失去的,而「哀悼」則是釋放的行為。當悲痛襲擊時,沒有人會覺得自己是被賜福的。我也從來不會建議這種事。然而,透過淨化、放下、和淚水的宣流來釋放悲傷,最終,痊癒將會發生。

        這個過程攸關任何一種事物的喪失,而不僅僅是指失去一個心愛的人。失去的可能是一個夢想,或是一個希望。甚至感覺童年悄悄的逝去,也會帶來一陣感傷,以紀念那份正被釋放的愛。這樣的淨化開展了一種空間,使得慶祝新浮現的生命階段成為可能。有時候也得承認生命裡一個職業或是角色的結束。釋放與紀念過去的一切,可能會有淚水,但也會有許多的門徑通向未來的可能性。“接受這個過程是美妙的療癒,並且可以帶來許多的賜福。

       「愛」有兩個部分「凝聚」與「釋放」。只有透過經歷和領會「愛」的兩個面向,生命才是完整的。「愛」的延伸、連結、和擁抱的面向是容易且令人喜悅的。釋放和說再見就困難多了。有些時候必須釋放所有人事物,在釋放的過程中,你放下執著,然後你再度變得完整。因此,你是受到祝福的。

       In Aramaic, ‘mourning’ could mean sorrow, grief, pain, or regret. Most of these meanings have negative connotations and suggest a clinging to loss. However, there is an even more important meaning that could be expressed only in a context which focused upon the value of mourning. I was referring to the act of purging and releasing. This is quite different from the internalizations of sorrow and loss. When a person first recognizes and experiences grief, it comes as an affliction. First there is shock, then depression, and so one turns within to suffer the emotional and spiritual wounds. This is grief. As the process completes itself in the latter stages of surrender, there is mourning. Mourning is the free flowing of tears as acceptance and releasing are experienced. In that state, the heart can perceive a continuity of life even though certain attachments have been lost. In letting go of that which cannot be retained, one heals. It is through releasing that one is blessed. Grieving is clinging to that which has been lost– mourning is the act of letting go. No one feels blessed at the onset of grief. Never would I suggest such a thing. Yet, in the releasing of grief through purging, relinquishing, and the flowing of tears, healing can occur at last. 

“This process is relevant to the loss of anything, not just the loss of a loved one. The loss could have been a dream or a hope. Even sensing childhood slip away could bring on a time of mourning to honor the love that is being released. Such purging opens a space in which to celebrate a newly emerging stage of life. There are also times to acknowledge the end of a career or role in life. In releasing and honoring what has been, there may be tears, but there will also be doors opening to future possibilities. “Accepting this process is great therapy and can result in many blessings.

This is because there are two parts to love—attaching and letting go. Only through living and understanding both phases of love is a being complete. The reaching, connecting, and embracing aspects of love are easy and joyful. Letting go and saying good-bye is a great deal more difficult. There is a time to release everything, and in releasing, you let go of the clinging, and you are made whole again. Thus you are blessed."

Love Without End


        生命之門被標錯了標籤,寫著「出口」的,其實是入口。而寫著「入口」的,其實是出口。生命中沒有死亡,死亡只是脫去這一生的戲服,這身載具,生命永恆不死、不生不滅、永恆不朽,死亡是把戲演完,戲服換掉而已,不用演戲了,不要跟身體認同。

        它們真正在那裡的目的是教導你、擴展你、啟發你和幫助你瞭解自己。人生僅僅是一個舞台,關係是戲碼,在這個時空的舞台上,為了圓融你與每一個靈魂的關係與學習,靈性進化是人生的最高獎勵,你的悟性得以施展,死亡幻像得以體驗。

        智慧是從人性進入神性的意識面紗 ,所有輪迴轉世的旅程裡獲取的情感彙集,它是當我們離開這個地方時能夠帶走的唯一的東西。每個靈魂帶走你「所是的」,從我們進入生命本質的旅程所獲取的所有情感。情感就是生命的一切。

        你沒有體驗過在內心糾結中面對她,你永遠不會知道所有這一切的感受。如果你不首先成為這個觀察者,使這些生命藍圖清晰,然後有意識地活出這個夢,你就永遠不會從情感上認知那些事情。 在一世又一世和一刻又一刻的生命之輪中,它已經變成為一個難以動搖的現實,以致於大多數的人已經變得恐懼不安,完全迷失在這個夢中。


生命,
以一個非凡的方法給你上了一大課;
它把你從輪迴、內疚、判斷和懲罰的困境中擺脫出來。
直到你,
熱愛和欣然接受你所做的一切,
以及領悟到它都是為了你的這一生「有意義的美好」,
你才能成為那些。

I love you neither with my heart Nor with my mind.
My heart might stop 
My mind can forget.
I love you with my soul because 
My soul never stops 
Or forgets.

— Rumi


淨化與釋放-讓愛終結傷痛


再見只是給那些以眼來愛的人準備的。 
對於用心和靈魂相愛的人來說,
沒有分離這樣的說法。

Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. 
Because for those who love with heart and soul
there is no such thing as separation. 

— Rumi 魯米


年輕的生命 短暫停留又消逝
失去心愛的人 讓人悲痛至極
也許 似水年華就返回「天家」
理由只是 靈魂的選擇

美善的天使走過人間
她所選擇的短暫旅程
能走過這樣 滿溢愛的人生
而在另一端 無傷地出來 — With Love

從兔子洞走進去,就走進了另一世界;而另一個世界中可能也有一個和自己一模一樣的人,過著截然不同的生活。


♦ 資料來源

  • 圖片來源: in spirit 原創
  • Glenda Green, 2011. Love Without End.

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